Love.....
This is a subject I can go on all day about, but one thing is for certain- There needs to be a certain level of chemistry for romantic love to happen. This is why online dating does not work for me. Though chemistry is often confusing because it can be so consuming that all you can think about is the other person. I think that's why Nikola Tesla remained single basically so he could, "Starve his distractions, and feed his focus." This is something I practice myself regularly. I believe in true love and I am willing to wait for it. I also believe if you don't unconditionally love yourself, then you cannot love another person. Lastly, no matter how strong the self love or chemistry, you are gonna hurt each other and usually a lot more than one time, at the end of the day we are all human and we were created out of sin which means its innate. On top of that we need to own our trails and tribulations because those are the very things that make us who we are today, which is usually a better person than the person we were yesterday. I understand in a deep way that we are all connected so any hate and disdain we have for others actually has more so to do with us and what we have been unable to accept about ourselves. It's more like a third party belief system built by the people we interact with in our lives. As we get older we have more control over these things, but when we are young we are being cared for by someone else and we are absorbing their thoughts of us unconsciously and that can prove to get us quite off the path we are each chosen for. It's only when you strip those layers of others opinions away that you can see your own beliefs about yourself or at least where the beliefs you have about yourself are actually coming from. It takes a lot of time and reflection to work through and figure these things out, and honestly it seems easier sometimes to put a mask on and give each person a dimmed down version of ourselves for their satisfaction. This is a temporary fix but ultimately you lose yourself and your authenticity in the process and can end up feeling lost, sad, and depressed. The right person is gonna fall in love with your flaws because there is beauty in imperfection. In loving and being more compassionate to ourselves we can only extend those same things into the energy field around us. There are many studies that show you are most like and most influenced by the top 5 people you spend time with, so be sure to choose wisely. Are you choosing cheerleaders, fakes, or haters? This is something you actually have quite a bit of control over and honestly realizing many things are out of our control can also bring great relief. Elon Musk brings up a good point when he says he likes to take things basically to a molecular level and builds them up from there- which gives him a higher perspective-because it wipes out the nonsense and useless things, it also leaves room for problem solving and innovation. It is a really genius way of thinking and I am certainly going to use this idea in my life now that I have learned about and grasped it. Lastly- We have ALL broken our rules for someone whether this has or has not worked out does not matter. As Edgar Allan Poe says, "I was never insane except upon occasions when my heart was touched." I believe that to be true, because love can make us feel crazy. The point I am trying to get at is that the right love will not feel crazy even though it may have a lot of passion it should also have peace, and trust. If you can love everything about yourself you are never going to believe someone else loves you this way. It starts with Self Love. This is something I have been working on over the past year and will continue to do in 2020. I got a massage for Valentines Day and it was amazing. Lastly- if you have someone in your life that you love make sure you take the time to tell them you love them and point out all the wonderful things you love about them. Spread the love! Get some and Give some.
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